In Korean culture, children who are well-behaved and obedient are often praised. However, there's a downside to this. These "good" children are often given more responsibilities, and their struggles may go unnoticed.

In the TV show "My Golden Child," there's a segment that delves into the inner lives of these children. What's often revealed is a great deal of suppressed anger.

I've seen this in my own family. My fourth child was always helpful with chores, never complaining. I thought everything was fine, but I later realized he was silently struggling. This made me realize the importance of paying attention to all children, whether they express their feelings or not.

Anger can be obvious, like with someone who frequently yells. But it can also be hidden, with people who bottle it up. Both types of anger are detrimental to mental health.

The Impact of Anger on Health

Chronic anger can wreak havoc on your health. It can damage your cardiovascular system, weaken your immune system, and increase your risk of cancer and infections. It can also lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms like drinking, smoking, or overeating.

When you experience anger, your body releases stress hormones and fat, which can lead to heart problems.

Managing Anger in a Healthy Way

It's important to understand that anger is a natural emotion with a purpose. It signals a need for action. The key is to interpret it correctly and respond appropriately.

Suppressing emotions isn't healthy, but neither is lashing out. Finding a balance is key.

A Framework for Understanding Anger

In the book "Mind," the importance of objectively assessing anger-inducing situations is emphasized. Psychologist Redford Williams outlines four key questions to ask yourself when you feel anger:

Importance: Is this situation truly important to me? Will it matter in a week or a month? If not, let it go.
Justifiability: Is my anger appropriate for the situation? Am I overreacting or suppressing my feelings too much?
Possibility of Change: Can I change the situation? If so, take action. If not, try to accept it and find ways to cope.
Value: Is it worth the effort to take action based on my anger? If the potential consequences outweigh the benefits, it may be better to handle the anger in a different way.
If you answer "no" to any of these questions, it's a sign you need to adjust your response. Try relaxation techniques, deep breathing, or distraction. Take a walk, meditate, or pray.

If you answer "yes" to all four, it's time to take action. But instead of aggression, assertiveness is key. Describe the situation objectively, express your feelings, and state your needs clearly.

The Importance of Assertiveness

People who frequently lose their temper often damage their relationships and make problems worse. Expressing your anger assertively is a much more effective way to resolve conflict and get your needs met.

By understanding the nature of anger and learning healthy coping mechanisms, you can lead a happier, healthier life.

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